Men account for 79% of all suicides in the USA, but women are more likely to be the victims of sexual violence. 71% of American women graduating from high school enroll in college whereas only 61% of American men do. And yet university faculties remain dominated by men.
These are the contradictions in many western countries where women's equal worth is still not guaranteed but where men increasingly feel disconnected and disenfranchised. One response, detailed by Tracy Clark-Flory at Salon, is the rise of the Manosphere. In the Manosphere, we learn that false allegations of rape are common, "feminism is a sexual strategy" and child support is a predatory act by women that should be avoided by true men if possible.
The rise of the manosphere represents a genuine need for many modern men to find meaning in a world where conventional social norms have changed radically. But the solution offered by the Manosphere is premised on reasserting the sexual superiority of men over women. Rather than blaming women for the challenges faced by men, movements for men should focus on the genuine challenges faced by men - a sense of isolation, high unemployment levels, falling academic performance - and what can be done to confront these problems.
This will, of course, take time and effort. It is important to at least start by looking in the right places. This means moving beyond blame between genders and looking within men's movements to the challenges that lead men to reach out to these movements. In doing so, we need start by refusing to endorse disrespect for women masquerading as calls for men's rights, and instead direct the conversation towards the role of men in a world where there is equal respect for all people, regardless of their gender (or anything else, for that matter).
I wasted hours reading through threads about pickup techniques, evil ex-wives and how to avoid paying child support. What I learned is that it all comes down to something really pretty simple: the toxic belief that sex is something that men must get from women. It’s part of why men have been trying to control women’s sexuality since always. Changing these men starts with fixing that mentality, which is by no means limited to the “manosphere”